Hey guys, Jackie, your future celebrant here. I have a confession to make: I don’t exactly believe in the traditional iteration of marriage…

Say WHAT!?!?

Let me expand. In the 2002 film Frida, Ashley Judd’s character, Tina Modotti, makes the following speech:

“I don’t believe in marriage. I think at worst, it [has been, historically *] a hostile political act, a way for small-minded men to keep women in the house and out of the way, wrapped up in the guise of tradition and conservative religious nonsense. At best, it's a happy delusion - these two people who truly love each other and have no idea how truly miserable they're about to make each other.

But, but, when two people know that, and they decide with eyes wide open to face each other and get married anyway, then I don't think it's conservative or delusional.

I think it's radical and courageous and very romantic.”

* When I think about ‘traditional’ marriage, I recognise that has a complex and sometimes troubling history — especially for women, LGBTQ+ folks, and many others. But I also believe that in this time, in this place, we are privileged to live in a country where we have the freedom to choose love on our own terms. Today, marriage can be a conscious, joyful act — not of ownership or tradition, but of mutual commitment, clarity, and care. And THAT is what I’m here to celebrate.)

So folks, to clarify, I DO believe in love. I DO believe in radical courage. And my loves, I sure as hell believe in bold romance. So I stand unapologetically here today to deliver this short manifesto:

Promise #1: A Revolution in Ceremony I promise to create a ceremony where your love takes centre stage — no tradition for tradition’s sake. This is your story, not a script. Let’s make something that feels true.

Promise #2: A Love Letter to Equality Equality is not negotiable, and I pledge to honour every partnership, regardless of gender or identity.

Promise #3: A Celebration Beyond Norms Let's toss outdated norms out the window and embrace a wedding that is pure, unfiltered YOU. Your celebration will mirror you: your values, your dreams and your love story.

Promise #4: Laughter as Resistance In the face of seriousness, we will choose joy! Joy is powerful. I promise to create space for laughter, warmth, and moments of lightness — because love can be sacred and fun.

Promise #5: Amplified Voices Your ceremony should sound like you. I will centre your voices and your stories — not mine. This is about your truth, spoken out loud and witnessed with love.

Promise #6: Inclusivity As A Non-negotiable From cultural traditions to personal beliefs, I will respect what matters to you. Your ceremony will honour your heritage, your people, and your lived experience.

Promise #7: I’ll Make It Count Expect goosebumps. And probably a few tears. Your ceremony will be heartfelt, memorable, and deeply felt — more meaningful than a TED Talk, more alive than a dance floor.

Promise #8: I’ll Stand With You Marriage is a radical act — especially when it’s chosen consciously. I’m not here to sell a fantasy. I’m here to celebrate real love, and the brave decision to commit to it.

Promise #9: I’m In Your Corner I’m not just your officiant; I am your cheerleader! In a world where the statistics often don’t look great for those of us wanting a “lifelong love”, I want your marriage to be one of the lasting ones! I will provide you with access to resources and support before and after the “hell yeah’s”, from suggestions of pre-marriage counselling services, through to “day after” recovery plan ideas.

Promise #10: A Friendship Beyond Ceremony Our connection doesn't end at the "I do." Once the confetti clears, I’m still here. As a witness to your vows, I take them seriously. I’ll be a friend to your love story — cheering you on long after the party ends.

So, lovers, the question is: are you ready to embrace the extraordinary?

Love, always

Jackie x